‘I Made The First Move And Now We’re Married!’ Real Nigerian Women Share Their Stories

 

It’s really scary to put yourself as a woman. Rejection can hit us hard especially if our emotions are already involved. However, there can be a lot to gain if you’re brave enough to go out and get it.

Perhaps the stories of these women who can proudly say “I made the first move” will inspire you to take the risk. Yes, you may get shot down or taken advantage of. But also consider the fact that you may also get your happy ever after.

‘It went down in the DM’

“Tolu would always like every single one of my Instagram posts and comment on most of them. When I noticed this, I went to his own page and was blown away by how handsome he was. I started stalking his page to see if he had a girlfriend or wife. This went on for weeks. He continued liking my posts and I kept on stalking him on Instagram. Then one day I decided to do something about it. What’s the worst thing that could happen? If he said no, I would just block him on IG, right? So I sent him a DM and complimented one of his photos. He replied immediately and we began talking back and forth. I would later learn that he battled with telling me he liked me because he felt odd about asking a girl out on Instagram. Today, we’re married and I’m glad I made the first move.”

‘One hint was all I needed’

“Benjamin and I had been friends for a couple of years. When we first started hanging out, he dated a bunch of girls. However, he stopped after a while. I was relieved as I was having feelings for him at this point. But he never asked me out. I was afraid of what he would do if I said something. But I took the risk when a friend of his told me Benjamin had feelings for me. We were hanging out one day and I made the first move by kissing him. That began our romantic relationship.”

‘All I wanted was sex’

“Aaron was a friend of a friend and I found him very attractive. I had a boyfriend at the time so I tried to keep my lustful thoughts in check. However, after I broke up with the boyfriend, I had a craving for something fun and exciting. So I called Aaron up and invited myself over to his place. We had sex that day, and many more days after that. After weeks of great sex and wonderful conversations, I realized I was in love. Funny thing is we were never boyfriend/girlfriend but, during one of our casual hookups, he suddenly proposed marriage and here we are.”

Before you make that move though, finding out if you’re really in love with him or just infatuated will help determine your approach.

Would you consider making the first move on a guy you really like? Why or why not? Share your views below.